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The Secret of Life (According to Me)

What if I told you that through my spiritual studies, I have finally found the Holy Grail that I have been looking for…THE SECRET OF LIFE? Would you believe me? Okay, probably not. Fair enough.

But I could accurately tell you that I have discovered the secret to MY life. I'd like to share it with you and see how it resonates.

The spiritual principle that has made all the difference in my life is this:

We are eternal spirits living in human bodies.

Game changer.

You've probably heard this principle before and may or may not have spent much time thinking of its implications (or you might flat out think it's bunk). I wanted to try to break down this important spiritual principle to give you a little (very simplified) taste as to how this can be a game changer in your life, as well.

[Side note…What I am about to share with you is the culmination of my studies and implementation in my own life. What I have learned is not of my own mind, but of many minds that have come before me and have collectively become my teachers.]

1. We don't die.

There is no heaven (where we go if we're good) or hell (if we're not). We merely close the door on our life on Earth and we open the door to our true home which is the spiritual world. Depending upon the spiritual progression of our soul, we are met by our soul cluster (family) and our guide and they might even throw a party for us. We are whole and content and surrounded by unconditional love unlike anything we ever experience on Earth.

So many of us spend so much of our lives fearing death. This principle removes any reason to fear. When we leave our human body, we assume our true nature, which is energy.

2. Our life's purpose while on Earth is to live out experiences that will further our soul's growth.

Before we are born, we discuss our next life with our guides and maybe our soul families, and then choose the life that we would like to live in order to learn certain lessons. Earth is one big school for souls. We come back life after life to attempt to overcome certain shortcomings and to overcome fear. This is one of the hardest things to accept - we choose everything we go through, no matter how difficult.

While this may be difficult to swallow, this is a life-changing realization. If we chose everything that has happened to us, we, and only we, are responsible. We are not victims. There is no one to blame. There is no one to resent. There is nothing to regret.

What we need to ask in every difficult, painful, gut-wrenching moment of this life is, "what am I learning from this?" Because, ultimately, that is the purpose of life.

3. We orchestrate our lives as if we were scripting a play and members of our soul family agree to play certain roles in that play.

"I will be the mom in this life and you be the mom in the next life," might be a conversation between two souls in the planning session for the next life, as if we're five year-olds playing house. We not only choose our experiences, but we also choose who will play integral roles. In this way, members of a soul family will play roles for mutual benefit. It's harder to blame your spouse or parent for mistreatment when you understand that you both agreed to play a part in the experience.

4. We are all one. There is no reason for discrimination, judgment, or fear of 'the other.'

In the spirit world, we are bodiless beings of light. We are all light. We are a harmonious body of One.

Before we are born, we choose the sex, race, culture, etc., that we would like the experience of living in that life. We may be a white male in one lifetime and a black female in the next. Underneath this human body suit, we are all the same. There is no hierarchy and no one is better than anyone else. There is not one favored religion or ethnicity or sex or sexual orientation. We are just at different levels on the soul growth train.

5. Everything we go through in life has meaning and purpose.

No matter what hardship we experience, this spiritual principle gives it meaning and purpose. It takes the randomness out of life, which can leave us feeling out of control. It changes the lens from which we view life’s experiences. We are all here living out our spiritual lessons and doing the best we can with the script that we chose prior to birth.

Our main objective is to overcome obstacles, fears, blocks, and limitations so we are able to embody our spiritual selves as much as possible in a lifetime. As we succeed in this mission, we raise our vibration, which in turn, affects everyone we come into contact with.

6. Our loved ones that pass into the spirit world are still with us in spirit, help us when we ask, and are waiting for us on the other side

One of the hardest things for us to go through in life is the loss of someone we love. It can blow apart our world unlike anything else. We ask "why?" and our human minds have a very hard time making sense of it. This spiritual principle doesn't make the loss any easier, but it does offer us an explanation. Your loved one has completed his/her objective in this lifetime, while you are still living yours. While it is difficult to press on after great loss, this is part of the lesson. We learn to integrate the pain and suffering of loss, while overcoming and carrying on. If we can calm our emotions (which is easier said than done, I know), go into our heart, and ask our loved one to let us know he/she is there, we will be able to feel the energetic presence. Our loved ones are always with us. We just have to open our hearts to feel them. And when our Earthly objective is complete, we will see our soulmate once again.


So, let me pose a question to you…when you view the experiences you are having in your life right now through this paradigm, what do you see? Does this help make sense of what you're going through? How do your relationships look when viewed through this lens?

How would this spiritual principle be a game changer in your life?

I'd love to hear from you! Please feel free to contact me and let me know what you think!

Thanks for reading!

Love and Light,


(P.S. If you're interested in talking more about this spiritual principle and how it relates to your life, schedule a free consultation today!)

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